5 Things Every Smart Woman Must Possess/Own

It feels like forever since I was last on the blogosphere. I want to try a short remedy this morning as my active academic focus is hitting a mental block. This is to decompress #sohelpmeGod. &nbsp…

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43 ways I have cried

The many different ways we share ourselves…..

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i find it a way i can’t describe when people are uncomfortable around crying

i have cried so many times and in so many different lights

in grocery stores shopping apathetically

making eye contact with strangers and pharmacists

at desks of offices looking down and away in embarassment

pumping gas in my car holding myself

on the floors of kitchens and bathrooms in my own saliva and snot

while being washed in the shower because i was too sad to wash myself

crawling under beds to hide

sidewalks and asphalt underneath me vomiting on the road

with a pile of blankets like a nest around me

and frostbitingly cold cars i refuse to move out of

walking, running away from places

at restaurants while ordering food and alone in my room

food tasting like a necessary evil

at hospitals into my knees in uniform chairs

at hospitals into sheets on…

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7 Rules In Kindergarten

this man's journey

We made it to the first two weeks of Kindergarten class. My son had been very excited about school, meeting his new and old classmates, of learning new things and of car pooling with other kids in our subdivision. He was so into it that he would even wake up his mom to tell her that it’s time for him to take a shower and prepare for school.

Yesterday, we had our first parents meeting. The teacher was really warm and understanding about our kid’s concerns in her class. She was very thorough in her discussions that ranges from the daily schedule, homework and attendance. The one that striked me the most was the topic on discipline. Our son can get overly excited and active in a lot of things. Last year, during the first few weeks of his Pre-K, my wife and I had a temporary episode of stress…

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My Spirit Airline Fiasco

Oh well! I needed to write. Couldn’t remember if I told you all about my trip on Spirit airline, if I did already, you still need to read for new additions, and if I had not, here’s the full story……….

I had been touring North America for a bit – fact is, most of my stipend as a Fulbright fellow went to fund my trips : Vegas, Orlando, Tampa, Virginia, DC, Baltimore, Philly, San Francisco, Anaheim……forgot the rest.

Anyway, on this trip, i was running low on funds but because my ticket to see the sights at Busch Gardens and SeaWorld were already paid for, I needed to find the cheapest flight to take me there. So, here I was surfing Cheap flights online and Spirit deals kept popping onto my screen. My roommate had not plenty idea how they really operated so I decided to take a chance.

This is what I learnt by this experience.

I woke up early and took the subway from Midtown Manhattan to Grand Central where the Airport shuttle is. Getting to the airport was a breeze. I was on time. This is where it gets interesting. I walk up to the Spirit airline desk to check in and because I had a small carry-on box, I was feeling safe until the lady informed me I would have to pay $50 for my carry-on. I looked at her sideways to be sure she wasn’t the crazy one. She wasn’t kidding so am standing there debating on canceling the trip or just squeezing through the barricades onto the plane. I did neither. I brought out my phone, dialled my roommate and told her what happened. Yup, you guessed it. she laughed long and hard and told me I had little choice that these airlines deceive people with low fares which they tack back on somehow when you come to check in and as I was there already. Pay up!

Debit card out, i grumbled, paid, got a receipt and headed to my boarding gate.

And what would you think they gave out as refreshments on the plane – nothing!………..some water, juice and pastries. I was just a tiny bit miffed. I didn’t smile back at the hostesses and pilot when i disembarked.

I enjoyed the rest of my trip and after a week, I did some laundry in readiness to return to NYC and yup, just as you guessed it. Spirit airline was gonna tack on another $50 for my bag again after i showed them the receipt from the first $50 bag fee, the desk officer nicely informed me that $50 was for one way and I could have paid $75 RT in the beginning *rolled my eyes at that cos I wasn’t given that nice piece of news earlier* She went on to let me know that if I wasn’t pulling a carry-on, i.e if my carry-on was a tote or military styled bag, I won’t have been charged. Then I realized I was dealing with a conniving, sneaky airline. Carryon vs bag? Helloooooo! Why wasn’t this stated in their good-looking-xmas-wannabe-deal? Why didn’t the silly lady that checked me in at LaGuardia tell me this either? I was there for 15long minutes. Long enough for the sentence to drop. Experts!

What to do now? Go back and continue staying in Florida and pay a $70 taxi cab back to my friend’s place where I put up, Pay the stupid $50 carry-on fee for boxes or buy a tote bag for $50? Yup! picked the last option and went home $100 broke and angrier.

Perfect way to end a nice trip. Thank you Spirit airlines. I’ll remember never to look a gift horse in the mouth. Haha!

 

Remmebering…………29th April 1982

Remembering a great friend and gentle soul……Olubukola Oni

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Sickle Cell Anaemia : 100 Reasons why I’ll Never Forget You

I watched a movie recently – In Sickness and In Health(2012) which reminded me of the way I found out my friend had this disease, sickle

cell anaemia. We were just high school kids and getting to know her, she told me her parents discovered her genotype shortly after she was

born because she had fallen really sick with swollen joints. This, in my opinion, is a pretty long time to be describing yourself as a sick

person. Everyone treats you like an invalid.

According to Dr Silvanus Okpe, Head of the Sickle Cell Unit of the Jos University Teaching Hospital (JUTH) about 3.4 million Nigerians

are currently suffering from sickle cell anaemia while about 40 million Nigerians carry the gene of reproducing sickle cell patients – See

more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/3-4million-nigerians-live-with-sickle-cell-anaemia/#sthash.iwbkb8qA.dpuf

In life, the little things we do may…

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Remmebering…………29th April 1982

Sickle Cell Anaemia : 100 Reasons why I’ll Never Forget You

I watched a movie recently – In Sickness and In Health(2012) which reminded me of the way I found out my friend had this disease, sickle

cell anaemia. We were just high school kids and getting to know her, she told me her parents discovered her genotype shortly after she was

born because she had fallen really sick with swollen joints. This, in my opinion, is a pretty long time to be describing yourself as a sick

person. Everyone treats you like an invalid.

According to Dr Silvanus Okpe, Head of the Sickle Cell Unit of the Jos University Teaching Hospital (JUTH) about 3.4 million Nigerians

are currently suffering from sickle cell anaemia while about 40 million Nigerians carry the gene of reproducing sickle cell patients – See

more at: http://www.vanguardngr.com/2013/06/3-4million-nigerians-live-with-sickle-cell-anaemia/#sthash.iwbkb8qA.dpuf

In life, the little things we do may be what matters most. SCD is an incurable genetic disorder widespread in sub-Saharan Africa and among

descendants of Africans worldwide. Sufferers have no visible symptoms, but periodically experience severe pain and are also highly prone to

anaemia because the blood cells break down after only 10-20 days, rather than the usual four months. I lost my friend to SCD after a 31 year

struggle.

The known clinical cure for SCD is a bone marrow transplant which is an expensive procedure for most people and importantly, bone

marrow donation from a non-sickle celled patient.

She was a beautiful soul. She taught me many things I know today and she never failed to bring a smile to people’s face, friends and family

alike. No one I knew had a bad word to say about her.

We attended the same high school, college and graduate school. We were almost roommates in grad school – we slept together, cooked

together, went to classes together and did lots of stuff together. I will remember her for many things.

She taught me to “count my calendar” to know my safe days every month which I promptly forgot at the end of my cycle because I knew she

would be there for me to ask her again.

She showed me how to fix a mean bowl of pasta and it was really remarkable – it cured a friend of malaria. LOL

She would say whenever she was sick (crises), all she needed was to be able to eat her favorite delicacy – amala with abula soup (yam flour

pudding with bean/vegetable soup). This was our signal that she was on her road to recovery and we could all relax.

We had lots of laughs – we would take ourselves out to dinner, pizza and drinks, the cinema, stage drama, theatre at a period when young

women expects men to do this for them. Late night talks about boyfriends, girl talk, trick and treating, swapping advise…… We did have fun

in grad school.

She was a generous soul, never begrudging any of her friends the use of her personal items, personal computer, printer, books, scarves, shoe,

she was a giving person and she would ask you to take whatever you asked for with a smile.

She had a kind word and a smile for everyone all the time. I could always call her up at anytime to ask her opinion about anything and I

could trust I would be getting an honest objective opinion, irrespective of the question.

I miss her for everything that she was. She was a bridge for most of my friendships as she never got angry at anyone. She was the one I

would report any of our annoying friends to, she would give the person a ‘talking to’ and everything would be fine again. No one ever got

angry with her. She was such a sweet person. Good people. She isn’t just a statistic, she was a loving person, she was my friend and I’ll

remember her every year when our birthday comes around.

“From available statistics, 100,000 infants die from sickle-cell disease in Nigeria annually, making it the number one sickle-cell endemic

country in Africa,” Sadiq Wali, president of the Nigeria Sickle-cell Foundation, told IRIN.

“Based on World Health Organization [WHO] indices, Nigeria accounts for 75 percent of infant sickle-cell cases in Africa and almost 80

percent of infant deaths from the disease in the continent”, Wali said.

You taught me so many little things so each time I look into my wash-hand basin and see the white mothball, I remember how you taught me

to leave it there to prevent stale air from the vent and to eat raw cucumbers so I can smell fresh “down there”.

Today is your birthday and I miss you Olubukola Oni, I know Lola misses you more and we won’t forget what you meant to many people.

Love always.

@RAyobola

Ayobola Raji is a Nigerian, Fulbright fellow, blogger, and a linguist. She would be writing about health/lifestyle, the Nigerian political/sociocultural

scene and her personal experiences in Nigeria.